Depression is such a lonely illness and it takes a lot of courage for people to reach out to others. But I love hearing of stories when someone does reach out and gets a positive reaction.
Crystal Nunn was going through a deep depression when she found the courage to send Stephen Fry a letter. Fry’s history with manic depression is well documented, but never in a million years did Crystal think that Fry would reply to her letter.
The letter which I’ve transcribed below has a wonderful message and it well worth a read.
April 10, 2006
I’m so sorry to hear that life is getting you down at the moment. Goodness knows, it can be so tough when nothing seems to fit and little seems to be fulfilling. I’m not sure there’s any specific advice I can give that will help bring life back its savour. Although they mean well, it’s sometimes quite galling to be reminded how much people love you when you don’t love yourself that much.
I’ve found that it’s of some help to think of one’s moods and feelings about the world as being similar to weather:
The above picture says it all really. Sometimes its the simple little things that make all the difference in life.
I may as well go on the record and say that I’m not the biggest fan of psychiatrists. I’m sure there are some great ones out there, but I’ve had the unfortunate experience of meeting too many bad ones.
Maybe its because I hate their reliance on medication, when sometimes counselling is all that is needed. Maybe its because a lot of them are so clinical and don’t have great people skills.
I also hate the empty feeling you are left with after spilling your soul to a complete stranger only to have them write you a prescription and ask you to come back in a few months.
But a puppy on the other hand…. is always willing to cheer you up, always there when you need a hug, and is never in a bad mood.
If I was a psychiatrist I would spend my time prescribing puppies to people who are depressed. My dog has made such a difference to my life, and I know a lot of people who would say the same.
What’s your opinion on psychiatrists? Or puppies for that matter
There once was a woman who woke up one morning, looked in the mirror, and noticed she had only three hairs on her head. “Well,” she said, “I think I’ll braid my hair today.” So she did and she had a wonderful day.
The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and saw that she had only two hairs on her head. “H-M-M, ” she said, “I think I’ll part my hair down the middle today.”? So she did and she had a grand day.
The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that she had only one hair on her head. “Well,” she said, “Today I’m going to wear my hair in a pony tail.” So she did and she had a fun, fun day.
The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that there wasn’t a single hair on her head. “YEAH!” she exclaimed, “I don’t have to fix my hair today!” Attitude is everything!
Below are a few exam tips that Unwind Your Mind has put together for those of you who are doing Junior Cert or Leaving Cert.
- Don’t spend the night before an exam cramming. You won’t perform well if you are sleep deprived. Instead get an early night and a good night’s sleep.
- On the morning of the exam, get up early so that you’re not in a rush and make time to have a good substantial breakfast.
- Avoid being late by arriving at the exam room ahead of time. This will allow you to calm your nerves before you go in.
- Don’t try to study whilst waiting to enter the exam room and stay away from anyone who is panicking about the exams. Panic can be contagious- so stay away from people who make you feel worse.
- Once in the exam room take a few deep slow breaths. The calmer and more relaxed you are, the more alert you will be.
- If your mind goes blank, close your eyes for a few moments and take a few deep breaths. This will help you regain your composure.
- Avoid looking at other people. They will always seem to be writing more and appear more confident than you. It’s your exam so just worry about yourself.
- After the exam do not engage in a post-mortem. Don’t focus on questions you were unhappy with, instead, concentrate on what has gone well.
- Don’t put on a brave face. If exam stress is getting you down, let someone know how you’re feeling.
- Take a break before starting to study for the next exam. You’ve earned it!to study for the next exam. You’ve earned it!